loving the one I’m with…

Amoroso Design contemporary living room

When all is said and done, this is kind of the effect I want, with more pops of color throughout.

My offline friends who come to my house know that my home is never the same place twice. I’m constantly shifting things around, trying to perfect the arrangement, trying to make it feel more homey. It’s not like I totally enjoy moving my furniture around, I’m just looking for an arrangement that feels right.  In the almost 3 years we’ve lived in our home, I’ve been looking for that ‘fit.’ Up until recently, I was convinced we bought the wrong house. becausewhy?

It doesn’t have the extra room I wanted as a crafting space.

It has just one (!) tiny bathroom for the FIVE of us.

There’s hardly a backyard.

There’s no garage.

The kitchen is tiny.

It needs a lot of work, cosmetically, and so on, and so forth, and so that…

Vista Real Residence contemporary home office

Loving gray walls with white trim right about now.

But surely there are some pluses?

It is a lot of house for the pennies we paid for it. 

There’s enough room for us to spread out, but still be close as a family.

It has tons of character.

It’s been remarkably well cared for and is in good shape for its age.

We haven’t had any significant problems with it, unlike *ahem* newerhouseswiththeircheapconstruction.

That huge (and very much under-utilized) family room in the back, complete with the 8ft wide brick fireplace and gorgeous hardwood floors.

So, with this new perspective, I’ve started seeing my home differently. I am letting go of what I thought I needed, and fitting what I need into what I have. This has led to my latest series of projects. 

craft1 contemporary home office

More gray walls/white trim.  needs some pops of reds, oranges, and greens, but this is the general idea.

For as long as we’ve lived in our home, I had a certain idea about where I thought I had to do my creating. I thought that I had to have a totally separate dedicated space for my crafting/making. This led me to place that space in the most illogical room in the house, the front Living room. It never felt quite right, so I’ve changed that room more times than all the other rooms in the house, combined. I was trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. As a result of that, I spent more time worrying about where to create, rather than spending time creating.

Last Saturday I was getting ready for my daughter’s birthday party and had to move a bunch of ‘my stuff’ out of the front room to make room. As I did this, I realized how much better the front room looked, and how much more sense it made to craft in the big giant room in the back instead of trying to stuff my stuff into the front room. The stroke of genius finally graced me with its presence. Turns out the perfect space for me is the room I had been avoiding like the plague.

I told myself a story about what I thought ‘my space’ had to be, instead of letting the rooms tell me what they needed to be. We do that, sometimes don’t we? We get caught up in how we think things should be instead of seeing them as they naturally are.

It is easy to get caught up in an idea. I LOVE looking at idea books/magazines/blogs etc. I would gladly spend my whole day dreaming about other people’s perfect spaces, only to turn around and be disgusted with ‘my space’ because it didn’t look or function like the perfectly styled rooms I’d been drooling over.

With the abundance of style/design/shelter blogs and websites, it’s so easy not to appreciate what you have. It is so easy to start to feel inadequate. It is easy to forget that not so long ago, people not only got by with, but flourished on so much less than we have now.

I have had a life long passion for décor. I remember in high school I would cut out pictures from the little décor blurb in “Seventeen” magazine. I would tack it to my wall, and try my hardest to make my dark dingy wood-paneled trailer bedroom look like the “Nordic Lights” theme I loved so much. Of course it never did, but I had fun trying.

With this new perspective, I am newly enjoying my home. I have lots of idea to work with what I have, and I can’t wait to share them. (I just hope I remember to take photos in all my excitement at bringing my ideas to fruition!)

Tommorrow: some before and W-I-P photos. (In my very best Ira Glass voice) “Stay With Us.”

4 thoughts on “loving the one I’m with…

  1. Ayo says:

    I think I needed to hear this because I too have been rearranging for years. You’re complaining and you have a house. Lucky you! I’m still in a 2 br/2ba apt (although very large)with 4 kids and a husband which is driving me crazy. I attempt to maximize our space th best I can ALL the time! But I know that I should appreciate it nonetheless. Like you said many have done without and still found happiness.

    • AfroMartha says:

      Thank you for your comment, Ayo. I know I’m guilty of sometimes not appreciating what I have. It’s good to wish, dream and strive to improve, but we should also appreciate what we have, lest it be taken away. I know all too well wanting a house…but boy it’s a lot of work, responsibility and DEBT, lol

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